
I tripped and fell holding my son today. It was like any other day, walking down toward our doorway. It happened so sudden, as I came through the door; I lost my balance, then BAM! His head hit the floor.
“If only I reacted a half a second faster, I should have prevented this disaster”. I didn’t even notice; my knees were bleeding, or that my foot was hurt, I just started feeling, his head, it was swollen, it felt like a boulder, trying to keep him off my shoulder.
“How many fingers!?” I checked him for symptoms. Sometimes this mom life can make you a victim of promises you never meant to break. “I promised to always catch you Lukey, please stay awake!”
“Why you crying for mommy!? Why you crying?” he smiled. “I’m fine mommy, don’t cry mommy” he was so kind.
“Oh my dear Lukey I’m supposed to be your savior but in this moment I feel like an utter failure.”
“There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.”
– Jill Churchill
“It was an accident, this is not your fault.” No matter how many times my husband repeated this sentence that day, the “mom guilt” was real. I kept seeing his head slam against the sidewalk and felt so ashamed of myself. “Why didn’t I react fast enough? How could I allow this to happen? I feel so stupid. I could have killed our son!”
I started reaching out to my friends in hopes that talking about this would help me process these emotions. My tears where unstoppable until each one of them started sharing their “moments of failure”. Although that didn’t make me feel any better about the situation, they made me feel human. They made me realize that having those moments of failure, doesn’t make me a bad mother. That I was allowing my “mom guilt” to get the best of me.
Behind every great mom is a tribe of other great moms who have her back!
Luckily I have an amazing group of mothers empowering me. They gave me the strength to push through my insecurities and feel like the supermom I know I can be. Words cannot express how grateful I am to be part of this dynamic #momtribe.
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